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7 Secrets to Finding Joy
by Keith Varnum
key to experiencing happiness is to put joy on your life agenda along
with completing tasks and goals. Joy is a direct result of intention.
Your intention determines how you experience each moment of your day,
each aspect of your world. As you go
Here are a few actions you can take to make joy part of your Earth journey:
1. Get outside yourself.
Take the focus off yourself and commit to being a Contributor rather than a Survivor. This may seem like odd advice, but consider how attractive "needy" feels. Ask others how you can support them and they will naturally want to support you. Life is a cosmic boomerang -- you get back what you send out.
Conduct a regular inner dialogue with your higher self. Say to your higher self, "I know you are here. I want to get to know you and pay attention to you. Please speak to me and guide my life."
Don't worry if this dialogue is entirely one-way at first. You may have been out of touch for a while. It takes time to clear the cobwebs. Persist with this inner dialogue as if you are talking to a friend -- chatting, asking questions, sharing your hopes and dreams. Sweep away mental chatter of the dead past and the uncertain future. Listen for answers. They will come.
As you begin to view life as a cosmic drama in which you are playing a very public starring role, the role of the higher self will become increasingly evident in your life.
2. Be a beacon of light.
out of your comfort zone. Become a beacon of lightheartedness. You'll
be closer to your soul's perspective. Become a bright sparkling source
of energy and let it reflect in all that you do. Let your spirit define
who you are rather than the outside world.
Set an upbeat pace at home and at work. Do a little more than you have to. Give a little more than is expected. Consider it an experiment and watch how others respond to you. Then see how you feel at the end of the week. If you find joy unbearable, you can always go back to being grumpy.
3. Create space for yourself.
Spend some quiet time with yourself every day. It's very important to have a place or time just for yourself. Give everything in your environment a personal touch. Create a room or private corner that fills you with joy and feels like home.
noise and activity constantly bombard your life, you are drowning
out your inner guidance. Just sit quietly with no expectations. Do
nothing. This may feel very uncomfortable and strange in the beginning.
Persist. Give time and space for the
Meditate. Breathe. Become a quiet, clear, pure vessel for the higher self to fill. Listen to yourself and trust what you hear. Let go of other people's voices in your head.
4. Learn from your lows.
Discover lessons to make your life better. Find value in trauma. Develop your resilience -- your ability to bounce back from mishaps. Taking a closer, more intuitive look at your tumbles can help you find a gift even in a hardship. Contented people transform problems into opportunities and trauma into something meaningful and constructive.
Ask, "What good might result from this? How did I contribute to creating this? Is it making me stronger, wiser, more compassionate? What can I learn from this so that I can do better next time?"
Understand that failure is often a precursor to success -- often in ways we can't predict. Let your life adventures teach you. Many people get caught in what -- or who -- is right or wrong instead of looking at the deeper understanding that can be gleaned from the incident. Use life's roller coaster to change and thrive.
5. Celebrate the success of others.
the success of others takes you one step closer to being able to appreciate
your own successes -- rather than hiding from achievement or fearing
failure. Invest attention and energy in the people you love and care
about. Meaningful relationships
Make people a priority. Prioritizing relationships is a more certain path to bliss than chasing after wealth, status or power -- even if you've got a good chance of acquiring them.
6. Cultivate beauty.
a place where you can experience all of the sacred Four Elements:
Earth, Air, Water and Fire (sun). Reset your energetic rhythms by
tuning into Nature. Allow all Four Elements to create a symphony of
sensation around you, replenish your vitality, and
Take in some art. Art has an energy all its own. And don't just observe the beauty, but rather immerse yourself in a work of art. The colors and shapes will awaken your senses and inner spirit.
7. Take your dream up a notch every day.
your worldview. Stretch your horizons. We're brought up with a largely
materialistic worldview that neglects the role of Spirit in our lives.
To establish close contact with spiritual realms, we need to have
our entire being -- conscious and
Copyright © 2005 Keith Varnum
About Keith: Keith Varnum shares his practical approach to transformation as an author, radio host and "Dream Workshops" facilitator. Keith helps people get love, money, health and spirit with his free Prosperity Ezine, free Empowerment CD and free Coaching at www.TheDream.com.